Marriage is good. Yes, indeed, but it comes with enormous responsibilities and challenges. Marriage is not a remedy for crisis, challenges and problems. Marriage rarely solves unresolved problems associated with singlehood. hence, the need to remain single until . . .
You know what you want:
Remain single until you know what you want out of life. Have an idea and clear-cut picture of your desired destination. Be able to define everything by yourself and for yourself. Do not chase after shadows. When this is done, every dick and harry will not dictate the pace for you. In other words, run your own program. Be your own competitor and refuse to compare yourself with others. Unfortunately, many are unaware of what they want – so they settle for anything and anybody that comes their way! Anybody can sweet tongue them away with proposals. When you don’t know what you want everything and everybody appeals to your taste.
You know where you are going:
Remain single until you have a sense of direction. When you don’t know where you are going – everywhere looks like your destination. Be specific and definite about your destination before you get hooked with marriage relationship. Have a vision. Marriage is not a trial and error.
You have someone going your direction:
As good as marriage is, the joy and sweetness of marriage is to being married to a person going your direction. Someone whose pursuits, ambition, and goal is the same as yours. Nevertheless, s/he may not be in the same trade, business, vocation, profession and career path with you but s/he believes in you and always ready to do everything to realizing your purpose. Remain single until you find that person that is ready to complement and support your dreams.
You match your focus with that of your significant other:
Perhaps love is already in the air. Perhaps you are almost at the altar. Perhaps you have had a lot together. Perhaps you are finding it difficult to fit in into this stuff. You consider it is getting too late to go back. Well let me ask you to contact your significant other and see how you can harmonize and adjust your views and destination to align and accommodate your respective paths. The scripture has a candid opinion that your partner’s plan should fit into yours. 1 Peter 3:1TLB.
By: John O. Alabi
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